The definition for the word Assume-suppose to be the case, without proof.
Well that's just one of the definitions but they all align with the same meaning.
We as people always assume that we know a person. You can't really know a person without getting the proof for yourself. You can't just go off what someone else gives you. For example, You know that friend that doesn't like anyone else but doesn't know them. Well you owe it to yourself to investigate who the person really is, unless your friend is very intuitive and on point. I say this because it will come a time when someone depicts you as something you're not. The one thing you must know for sure is who you are. Growing up for me, I would never let someone else's opinion about someone be the end all. I needed to see for myself knowing this could go either way. You know when your parents would tell you don't do something and you do it anyway. Well it's kind of like that when we assume about someone without evidence or proof. So you dislike someone over assumptions that might not even be true. You could be missing out on getting to know a beautiful soul.
It's crazy how being aggressive could be considered angry. Well maybe for a black woman it's always attached to anger. Why can't it be attached to passion or a passionate person? My friends that know me truly know I'm aggressive when need be. I'm also passionate about things a believe in. So they either build me up when they can see my point. They can also let me know when their is no place for this type of attitude.
#Just notes to myself....
Friends always show up
When things happen to those we care about, it can affect us in a deep way. Sometimes In ways we couldn't have imagined. That's when you know that you have moved past just being friends. They become family and you care about what happens to them. It's true you are born into a family but you create family wherever it feels like home. It has always felt like that with the girls. Most people don't know that I'm adopted. I must say though you could not tell otherwise. I act a-lot like my adopted family. I even look like them but my birth parents we're young. I don't blame them because I had a happy childhood. What I know is that these girls, ladies walked into my life. I just knew from the start that they we're family. When you know you know, all soulmates don't have to be romantic. We have such a spiritual connection with each other. I don't mean we have to go to church every Sunday. We have some of the same ideas about life. Sometimes we only look to connect with romantic partners in this way. You will need those types of connections in non-romantic connections.
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Zoey James Shades of Beauty (TheWeb Series)
We have been working hard at getting you the Zoey James series. Well at least the first episode that's a start, considering the long hours to filming each episode. We have shot 3 episodes so far and look forward to showcasing the entire season soon. We are in the works to finishing up the rest of the season Please take a look at the first episode and Subscribe all things Shades of Beauty By Zoey James, LLC
Episode One Who is Zoey James?
Blogging wasn't something I sought out to do. I wanted to report the news but that didn't work out. Life started happening and I got off the beaten path. I started blogging to curb my desire to write, and tell stories. It just kind of took off with one post after another that created a buzz for Tory Sky. It's my assume name and sometimes I could be put into the bitch category. However, It's not even close to the truth to who I am. Sometimes the things that you want so bad come with a price. If only I could change the outcome of it all. That's what we all say, right? Hindsight is 20/20 as they say. We all know right from wrong but due to our free will we don't always make the right decisions. Of course, you can do the right thing, it may take you a little while longer but it may also give you ;piece of mind. Ms.Tory Sky
Stand in your Truth
My motto to my best life ever is to stand in your truth. Your truth is whatever is true to you and only you. It does not need the approval of others. Standing in your truth is without the many mask that we wear. The same mask that we use to protect ourselves when under attack. When you're standing in your truth, you will find that your attacker is really deflecting from themselves. You will know that when they are attacking you, that it has nothing to do with you. This can only happen if you are aware of who you are. When you truly know yourself attackers are far and few between. When I was younger, it would bother me so much if someone nitpicked everything about me. It could be from the way I smiled to how thick or thin my hair was. What I realized is that if you're not careful, their voice could get stuck with the voice you already have. You know that voice that tears you apart, when really you should be building yourself up. The thing is, if you can master who you are, everybody else's voice will take a back seat. Zoey James
Behind the scenes of Day 2 Shoot
Cast and Crew as always so grateful to have work with you all. I look forward to work with you all again. Cast Zoey James .................... Cacharel Martin Cassie Reed..................... Natalie Younger Monique Smith...............Robyn Durham Christopher Doby...............Troy Grant Iesha Rochelle......................Tory Sky Makeup Artist................ Tyanna Smith Bey Crew ExecutiveProducer.............................. Kevin Fowler AssociateProducer...............Sherri Washington Associate Producer .....................Andrew Cintron Director............................................. Aaisha Simpson Director of Photography...........Andrew Cintron Camera Operator (A) .........Taiwuan Smith Bey Makeup Artist................ Tyanna Smith Bey Casting Director...................... Danielle Lock
Self-doubt is a real killer. If you’re like me, you probably live in your head. It hasn't always worked for me however. Sometimes you can be your worst enemy. You see, sometimes that voice you hear in your head is either going to guide you or stunt you. Then, if you’re in the approval of others, this could really stop you dead in your tracks. It’s all about mastering the balance of how much you sit in your own head and actually execute.
For example, Bill Gates or Oprah are not looking for peoples approval. If that were true, they wouldn't be billionaire’s. I learned a long time ago that the only approval I need is the man or woman upstairs. Now don't get me wrong, sometimes you fall into the wanting of others approval, but that doesn't last very long. When you start caring about everybody's opinions about you or things you're doing, you can get stuck in what they think you should be doing verses what you want to do. Of course, some opinions might be right on point and may stop you from making a mistake. However, what I'm saying is, don't allow the opinions of others complicate any self doubt that you may have already started creating for yourself. When you start to doubt yourself do it anyway. It's when you continue to make the same mistakes over and over again, that there could be a real problem.
Behind the Scenes of
Zoey James Shades of Beauty (Web Series)
Film Day One
Thanks to my Cast and Crew just a lovely bunch of people. It took us about ten or more hours to film 10 1/2 pages. We had a long day of filming and eating. Yes penalty of food to keep the cast and crew going. Everybody came together and worked hard to get this done. I am so grateful for all the help. Cast
Zoey James ..................... Cacharel Martin
Cassie Reed ................... Natalie Younger
Monique Smith ............. Robyn Durham
Troy Grant ......................... Chris Doby Crew
Exe. Producer .................................... K. Fowler
Director/Producer ....................... A. Simpson
Assoc. Prodcer/ DP ....................... A. Cintron
UPM/First AD/Audio ....................... K. Cobbs
Second AD ................................................. C. Doby
We look forward to finishing up the second half of the rest of the season.
We have to give special thanks to Dr. Chrisna Perry for letting us use her space to host the casting call to find all these lovely people. She is the owner of Comprehensive Learning Services and she has been a blessing every time she has let me use the space. Please check out her site. Stay tune for Zoey James Shades of Beauty ( Web Series) coming soon!!!
Cassie Reed (Dating )
Dating for me is non existent at this time in my life. I would love to date but I know I'm not ready. To be honest I just never been good at picking someone good for me. I guess you don't really pick them but you let them into your space. Like Zoey always says, "Be careful who you let into your space." I would have to say I have had some real space hogger's. It was always about them and I didn't fit into the relationship. That's funny because I thought it took two to make a thing go right. So you can see why I'm taking a break from dating. It would be nice to be in something real. You know, a balance, not so much of just one, but just enough of both of us and that we both grow. I know that when the time is right he will walk into my life or I'll walk into his.
Well, life is good I have my girls. It looks like I might have found my future husband. At least in my dreams, he's tall dark and handsome and the new head of operations. It's funny because I'm not shy when it comes to men. I would have to say it's something about him that makes me feel like a school girl. Now, I don't know if that's a good thing or not. However, It's something about this tall, dark and handsome man. I can't put my finger on it but any who. The company is doing great! Well, I mean for our first month of business any way. It amazes me that three friends executed an idea into reality. How many people or friends could say that?
It's something about her that I just don't get. I mean, if I got her she probably wouldn't be that interesting at all. I want to get to know her but she keeps me at bay. This would normally motivate me to move on. However, she's a smart, sexy, and educated woman. It's so crazy how she shows up when I'm trying to take a break. I must admit that I'm intrigued. Which doesn't happen often enough I might add. I wonder what she's doing at this moment. Awww man, there I go drifting again. This girl has really got a hold on me. I like it though, it's refreshing to feel something other than just lust for a beautiful woman! Ok, ok, I must focus. I have a whole day ahead of me and I must get things done. Time waits for no one, yes? I must say however, that she certainly is a beautiful distraction! One that I'm finding very difficult to ignore.
Well, if you would have asked me a few years back. I would be asking the same question. I had some time to do some soul searching to find myself and who I am. It wasn’t by my own choice if my ego had anything to do with it. Usually it’s the ego that will put up the fight to stay as you are. When it’s your inner self, screaming for change. That was the start of the real Zoey James emerging to be true. True to myself that is and I am still searching. Would I say that my ego is gone, not at all? Your ego doesn’t go away it just takes a backseat. The ego peek its little head out here and there wanting to get back in the driver seat. I knew that I enjoyed my inner self stepping forward and taking over. The inner self is nothing like your ego. She or he is gentle with you and loving of everything about you. The ego is possessive, jealous, insecure do I need to name more? This fight that the ego and inner self go through is a real bitch some times. The ego is telling you everything is all good it’s like when you put the short skirt on. The thing is you know it’s too short or should I say too small. The ego will tell you to wear it anyway but your inner self will reflect back to you what you already know but you ignore it. The inner self reason for stepping forward in the first place is to give balance. You won’t get balance from learning to juggle your work relationships and so forth. The balance comes from the two; ego and your inner self. When the two can coexist it’s pretty cool.
Well, they can call me a lot of things but b**ch ain't one. My Mother always made it clear that knowing what you want does not make you a b**ch. I have always known what I want but never had the right people surrounding me to get it. My girl Zoey says it's not about the people at first. She's always saying that it starts with you first. In my head I'm thinking oh really then she says something like "Yes really". Of course I'm thinking did she just read my mind. Apart of me knows shes right it's the mind set that you have about yourself and what you can do. If you can't see yourself doing it on your own then why would the universe send you, your like minded family. You know your people that support and push you in the direction that you need to be. See Zoey and Cassie have been that for me. I know that I give them the most problems but it's out of love. I love these girls as if we are like blood sisters. The dopiest thing about these girls is they don't make no fuss of all my thickness. That's right I'm curvy and have two degrees and working on a third one. That last part was for anybody looking for a smart wife. The best part about this relationship I have with these girls is it's so mature and I desperately needed it.
Cassie Reed the plain Jane out of the group. Now I know your probably saying why would that be of any interests. Well you know you have to have that one friend that pops out the cake when things are going left. You know the one who spice it up when you can't. The quite one of the group but pit bull when needs to be. Well maybe not a pit bull that might be my girls Zoey and Monique. Well Zoey is classy she is so sweet but get on her bad side and it's over. You kinda of wish you didn't messy up her whole Eckhart Tolle oneness thing. Monique just tells it like it is. When you think about it she's right for the most part. If she didn't have a whole lot to work on her own oneness she could be the next Iyanla Vanzant. Well, for myself I like to think a little Bill Gates I'm that good with the numbers. I'm obsessive compulsive that's how good I am with the numbers. Which Zoey has to remind me every so offend that nothing has to be on the nose.
Plain Jane ****
Ex- College ball player
It's a lot of things I could wish or hope for but I like to start with what I'm grateful for. See I could start with my flashy car but I'm not that shallow. Besides I don't have flashy cars but I have a nice one. The kicker is that I could have my pick of a lot of things. My father would always say that "it's not that you have the choice to pick but how they make you feel." I guess he was saying you pick them but if they make you feel like shit maybe he or she is not the one. So I'm single at the moment dating here and there. I'm just not sure if I found someone that makes me feel that way. If we are being real with each other it's about how you feel about yourself. When you don't feel good about you, you will allow someone to make you feel like shit. I'm a man and I ain't got time to be sitting in my ego tripping over my own insecurities. So why would any woman think that I would put up with hers. It's a balance that most people think can't be done in relationships. Relationships are not just romantic you make relations every day. If your not dealing with your own ego and insecurities and try bringing that to a relationship. Sit back and see how fast those relationships burn out. With all that mess you can't help but to be drained.